Thursday, 29 December 2016

All is calm ~






. . . There is the quiet promise of new things to come . . . 

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The final days of 2016 . . .
Full of sparkly frost, radiant blue skies and shining sunlight wherever your eyes fall . . .
All is calm, all is bright - Hopefully this may be a good sign that 2017 will follow on from these beautiful final days of this year  . . .



Wednesday, 21 December 2016

All the Christmas Emotions ~


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~ My five 
Mental Well Being hopes 
for Christmas and the New Year ~

Hope 1

Getting well and strong - sadly my emotional well being has seeped through to my physical self these last few weeks. Migraines and poorlyness are not ideal during the festive season I think you'd agree?!  Time to work on self care and accept help when it's kindly offered . . .

Hope 2

Devoting more time to writing and creating - because it makes me happy and keeps me peacefully in the moment!

Hope 3

Enjoying my time with loved ones, and enjoying what I love, without feeling guilty that I should be 'working' and 'figuring out my future at every moment!

Hope 4

Accepting and letting go of unhealthy mindsets which trap me into being a slave to excessive worry!

Hope 5

Less pressure on myself in all areas of my life - even with my ponies! If I want to just potter about and enjoy their company, without a ride, that's what I'll do. We all get something out of it in those lovely 'just us' moments together - including strengthening our bond! So . . . no more pressure or comparisons. Do what is right for us - my ponies and I . . .

Do you have any personal hopes and goals for yourself this festive season?



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PS:  A Merry Christmas Message 

~ My silver lining behind being poorly ~

Christmas shared with my nephew of three years is so special. We've gathered toys he no longer plays with and given them to organizations such as The Shoe Box Appeal, and Cash For Kids, so little ones all over may enjoy receiving a gift at this magical time of year. We've played Christmas games, wrapped gifts, sang lots of songs and my family and I had the wonderful chance of seeing his very first Christmas play! Christmas is definitely about making memories. . . 

We keep looking out at the sky each night for Santa - time is hard to grasp when you're three - not long now, and we may just catch a glimpse of a sleigh riding past the moon ??? 

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Wishing everyone a wonderful Christmas weekend and I hope all your wishes come true . . .


With love to all : ) 


' Milly '  Xx


Sunday, 11 December 2016

Golden lights and all things bright ~





              
~ Four little steps forward to Christmas ~
* Sunday simplicity with cosiness and a few sparkles!  The welly boots were hung up for the afternoon, and the slippers were put on for a snug and festive tree decorating hour.

* Hoof prints in the frost, warm breathing pouring into the cold evening air - Christmas with horses is extra special. Riding in the chilly mornings and seeing the fairy lights around the village as we trot by.


* The sound of singing jingle bells coming from my nephews sweet little voice, echoing merrily around the house.

* Feeling hopeful and bright



With love
x

Monday, 5 December 2016

The magic is arriving ~


A soft frost is covering every inch of the meadow each morning just now. A family of Robin's have taken up residence in our faithful field maple. They return every year around this time. The holly wreath has been perched up high out of reach from curious pony teeth. A quiet magic is present in the meadow . . . Christmas is coming . . .


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Welcome December ~ 
May the festivities begin . . .

Monday, 28 November 2016

Forever thankful


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Seeing the countryside from behind two fluffy ears that belong to my little pony 



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The wisdom in these old faithful eyes  



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The fun and frolic in such a gentle giant  



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The adventure and learning that never stops  



I am 
 ~  forever thankful
 to share my life with these equine treasures of mine . . . 




Friday, 25 November 2016

Pastel skies and lovely surprises

An enchanting guest at the front door on a chilly winters eve

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There is room at our B&B for a little one - please make yourself at home

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Blue skies and shades of pink amongst the bare trees 

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What a lovely surprise to find our visitor pop back for second helpings 

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It's the little moments that bring the most joy . . . 




Thursday, 24 November 2016

Frazzled hearts ~



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Dear Frazzled Heart,

I found you scrunched up in between the twigs, dew drops and muddy puddles in the meadow this morning. The ponies had pulled at your ribbon and sticks, leaving you a little jumbled. The wind had tossed you about from where you usually hang so sweetly from the stable roof. So prettily you sway in the gentle breeze, for all to see, providing your homey touch of rustic charm amongst the cobwebs and weathered wood of the meadow barns. Yet today, the weather was too much for you, and instead of spotting you dancing in the wind from your perch, I found you a little bit hopeless and lost on the ground.

It made me sad. Because I know what that feels like. You see, my own heart has been just a little frazzled recently. A little bit broken and scruffy around the edges. A little bit lost and trodden on by unsuspecting bigger things.

I've been a little like the ribbon, unable to hold my heart up to where it should be. 

I took my new path to get well and strong at the start of the year, and it seems I am still not entirely sure where I am headed or how to get there.

But, frazzled heart.... like you, I do have caring hands around me to scoop me up, dust me off, and help me put myself back together again. And I am so, so grateful for that.

My loving family and dear friends are an encouraging reminder that, even if my own heart is a little muddled and mismatched around the edges, it's still good enough. Just as it is.

So even though we're both a little frazzled, we'll get back to our place of belonging and be strong enough to weather any storm again very soon.

With love xxx



Ps. For anyone who also feels like they've got a frazzled heart
 ~ everything will find a way to be okay ~  You'll see . . . 

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Monday, 21 November 2016

~ My country girls winter survival guide ~


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Keep Warm Country Girls . . .

Ponies need a little winter help in staying warm too


1. Tights underneath jeans/leggings/trousers! 
Essential for chilly days and perfect as an extra layer. 

2. Double up!
Short sleeve t - shirts over long sleeve tops. Tucked in vests too - don't let the cold get in!

3. Cosy, extra thick socks! 

4.  Welly warmers!
 A fleece lining for boots. Very snug.

5. Fleece hat, gloves, scarf!
 Keep the warm in with fleecy material.

6. Pocket warmers! 
Mini hot water bottles for keeping hands in pockets toasty!

7.  Waterproof trousers! 
Ideal for the bitter cold days.

8. A flask of something warming to drink. Keep it topped up!

9. Jumpers, and jumpers on top of jumpers underneath a slightly bigger coat. 
Roomy for layering up.

10. Keep moving. Keep positive. 
Be efficient.


Handy Hint . . .
Keep a little chocolate to hand to nibble on for
 encouragement when out doors in the wintry elements!

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With love 


Even if it's freezing cold - when you're wrapped up - nothing can stop you having fun







Saturday, 19 November 2016

Country sunlit sparkles


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As I climbed the gate this morning and entered the meadow for my ponies breakfast giving, the sun shone so radiantly across the frosted grass that it felt as though Christmas had arrived early. Twinkling sparkles covered every inch of our field. Even glitter drops hung upon my ponies manes and soft muzzles.

Autumn and winter can be unwelcome to so many. But in the countryside there is such beauty to be found, even when it's pouring down with rain.

 Winter is an important part of the year for horsy life. It is one of the only times when my ponies can enjoy access to unlimited grass. It is when days have a slower pace. The ponies are rested more than ridden. 4 0'clock feeding begins before darkness sets in. Hay is in countless supply, stocked up in it's shelter ready to distribute. Fallen trees and branches are tidied up and taken away for kindling and bonfires. And the land itself gets a little bit rougher around the edges as it's left to hibernate after a busy summer of growing and harvesting.

Then, there are the frosty mornings. . .

Sun sparkles cast a light upon the bare trees and the golden leaves, which have now fallen upon the muddy hoof print filled ground.
The frosted grass glitters  . .  and as nature tucks itself away, it feels like it's saying just this . . .

  'Don't worry. I am still here and I'll be back again soon. 
But until spring returns, enjoy this beautiful sight.'  

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The meadow covered in a beautiful sparkling autumnal frost

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Monday, 14 November 2016

A little self kindness goes a long way ~

' life isn't always easy to understand. But there are many things which help us to make sense of the journey along the way ' 

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 TLC for your life 
- tender love and care in five steps - 

1. Trust your instincts. They never lie.

2. Make time for self care. A happy, healthy mind/body is a priority. You need YOU to function at your best! 

3. Have empathy for others and their struggles.  Offer kindness at every turn. But save a large portion for yourself too. 

4. Remember you always have a choice. You have the power to change what isn't right. Even when something is wearing you down, breaking your spirits or causing you to lose hope. Dig as deep as you can and look at your choices for change. That may be your mind set about a particular issue, a lifestyle choice, career, asking for help, or even simply saying no.  

5. Practise easing negative feelings about yourself by writing everything down and trusting that you're doing the best you can. Build yourself up instead of allowing negativity to bring you down.  Examine where the negativity is coming from. Is it a person,  an unresolved issue, fear or low confidence causing you to believe the negative dialogue in your mind? 
Writing it all down makes everything look more manageable once it's out in the open.  Acknowledge everything you feel so you are able to manage the tougher emotions with clarity and break down the walls of self shame, self blame or guilt.

' Positivity may sound unattainable or far fetched. But there is SO much power in it '

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With love 


Wednesday, 9 November 2016

Reflection...with a little help from Miss Jane Austen

As a Hampshire country girl, I am very lucky indeed to live within driving distance of the beautiful village of Chawton. Home to none other than many an aspiring writers literary idol -
Miss Jane Austen  
herself. 



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Walking the corridors and rooms of where this world renowned writer once crafted some of the most wonderfully acclaimed romance novels, which are still so highly acknowledged today, I experienced such feelings of awe and inspiration that I am not sure I could fully describe it. But the admiration runs deep.

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The house is warm. Loved. And filled with a sense of family. Her writing desk sits ostensibly beside the big bay window overlooking the pretty village, with its ramshackle English character and thatched roofs.




 This Cottage was the home to a woman who lived, felt, dreamed and created - and we are still talking about those charming, heartfelt, witty and eye opening creations to this day.

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Her life and inked finger prints can be imagined throughout the house she called home. The Cottage she loved and that inspired her to complete some of the wonderful classics we still adore and talk about. This house was her last home before her untimely death - her sister's emotional letter of those final moments of her passing, hangs upon the hallway walls for all to read. 

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It made me think, as I soaked in the ambiance of all things Georgian and Austen related, that time really is precious, and life spent making time for what really matters to you can never be taken for granted, nor wasted. If you're quiet enough and just take a moment to feel and absorb what is around you, time does indeed have a way of standing still just when you need a little reflection. It's evident how much you can sense this when looking into the lives of those who lived so many, many years before us. Their mark on the world, no matter how tiny, was there. Their place in the world is still very much present, for all to see. They were real. They were here. They mattered. No matter if it was the servant's kettle which sits upon the wood burning stove, the china that carried their tea in the morning, or the beautifully stitched lace shawl that hung prettily upon Miss Austen's shoulders. It was real and it was true. A life touched all these things.

We sit today, typing away on our keyboards, pouring our own creations into the online world, hoping in some small way that what we're doing is right. Is it enough? Are we enough? Is our writing good enough?

 Miss Austen sat at her desk, quill in hand, crafting sentence after sentence and bringing to life the most glorious heroes and heroines known to romantic literature. Doesn't it show what can happen, when you make time to do the very thing you love, with a little self belief ?


I hope you find a way to keep doing what matters to you and makes you happy, even if you feel like giving up on those special things. Your heartfelt efforts will never go unnoticed. Time will find a way to preserve everything - your finger prints upon your own little space will last forever.


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With love
X

Monday, 7 November 2016

Daydream through the seasons


For memories of summer time . . . 


For days when you need a little faith that everything will work out okay  . . . 
 
 
For days when you're seeking adventure . . . 
 
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Self doubt can sit on our shoulders sometimes, and when it does, it's hard to shake it off and believe in the positive rather than the negative that it chatters to us. To tune out of the criticism and into the confidence, try to find a few quiet moments to let your thoughts daydream towards where you want to be. Hold on to those pictures in your mind as they glow and grow stronger, and reach forwards to the light they cast upon the shade.

Daydreaming, even just for a few moments, can be a powerful way to guide you back to yourself again. Save a small dose of time each day to gather your thoughts, and refuel your self belief. It's just a small way to offer a helping of self care when spirits begin to feel a little low. 

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With love
xXx



Thursday, 3 November 2016

Autumn moments


 Crisp mornings and blue sun lit skies - ice cobwebs and golden scrunched leaves. Autumn is slowly saying goodbye and winter is taking it's rightful place.

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My Autumn moments this year
were just like this . . .

Pumpkin smiles. Tea and birthday cake. Hopeful hearts. Bright eyes. Tiny, warm hands. Welly boots in mud patches. Wrapping paper. Childhood giggles. Laughter and silliness. Chatter and countryside adventures. Happy Halloween. Trick or treat. Family and friendship. Time and love. Pony rides. Soft sugar cube kisses. Nuzzling noses. Horsing around. Family life.

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I wonder what winter has in store . . . 





Monday, 24 October 2016

Bloggers Recognition Award!!!


I was so touched to find that Jemima from Another Ranting Reader
had so kindly popped my blog down as a nominee. Thank you so much!



Little things like this are very exciting I think you'd agree because as a new blogger, navigating through the ins and outs of this wonderful hobby, lifestyle, passion and community, it's even more encouraging when you get a lovely surprise such as this small pat on the head. I don't have a huge audience, this is just a very small scale space, but it is still more than I expected starting out.

It seems there are a few rules to abide by with this award -
 in which I hope I get correct and do justice to.

Firstly ...

Say thank you and acknowledge the blogger who nominated you :

Dear Jemima, please see above! Huge thanks to you for choosing my blog and me. It means so much. I would highly recommend anyone who stops by, to take a look at www.anotherrantingreader.blogspot.co.uk
Please do. It's a lovely place.

Secondly ... 

 Offer a small story about how you began blogging :

I have two blog creations that I first pressed publish on in January of this year.
Keep Calm and Start Writing - began when I needed to do exactly that! Cutting a long story short, I was working one day, feeling desperately fraught with worries, when I saw a Zoella article gleaming up at me from a newspaper. From here I fell head over heels for this world of writing/blogging that I never knew existed. ( I was a late arrival to this wonderful world) I've always adored writing, and to create a place where I can tap away on the keyboard and fill up a page with my thoughts and pictures is just very lovely in every way. My hope is to one day be a Children's book author, and write
professionally.

My other blog is . . .

Bridie's meadow of Mindfulness with Horses

It is all about the benefits of Animal Assisted Therapy - I focus on my love of horses and the need for a little emotional healing after a tough time with my mental health. It is my discoveries and thoughts and offers a few helpful tips along the way to anyone who may need a little boost.


Thirdly ...
 Two Tips for Newbie Bloggers:

1) I'd have to say, just be true to yourself. Write what you feel and what matters to you. First and foremost, blogging should be a fun, positive and creative outlet that makes you feel good about who you are and the way you see the world.

2) Enjoy discovering bloggers, learning from others, exploring their worlds and admire fellow writers without comparing yourself to them. Learn from and enjoy this world of writing!

Lastly ... very importantly!

Nominate 15 favourite bloggers of your own and share them:

( This worried me because I did not want to leave anyone out! )

 I want to celebrate the blogs that I love and not miss anyone along the way - I hope you enjoy these lovely bloggers spaces as much as I do - Please know if I have missed someone, it's not because I don't love your work, because I really do . . . My Best wishes go to everyone! Apologies if you have already been nominated before - I am new to this!


1) More Mindful You 
2)Fashion Blogger Stacie  
3) Floral and feather 
4)Country Bumble 
5) The Tea Drinking English Rose 
6)A Cup of Creative 
7) Snug  
8)A Soulful Life
9) Sailboat 
10)Rainbow - Rose Blossom 
11)Sweet Passions 
12)Wooden Windowsills  
13)Finding Hope  
14)Blogging for Sanity 
15Carina Vardie 

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Please could I just say that there are SO many more blogs and bloggers I adore - every one has something worthwhile to say - so please do trust that!

Thank you all!

. . .
 
Happy Blogging Xx


' Milly '  

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These are some extra lovely blogs I love dipping into . . .
and
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I just had to share them here too  . . .


Bye for now!

Monday, 17 October 2016

Autumn photo diary of a country girl




An early morning autumnal sun lit ride

Hot coffee in cold hands beside the meadow river

A peaceful moment amongst the last of the green leaves

Scrunching through crunchy fallen leaves in muddy boots

Watching contented ponies through the bare trees

I am an advocate of saving time for the little moments that restore calm and happiness.
The countryside has a way of encouraging this I always find.

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I think Autumn may be my favourite season . . .




Thursday, 13 October 2016

Do what makes your soul happy


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Sharing my life with horses was always a childhood dream of mine. I think that is why the quote 
' A pony is a childhood dream - A horse is an adult treasure '  is so special to me....because it's very much true! 



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 ' My three reasons for why horses and horse riding are good for the soul . . . '

1) Horses and ponies are highly sensitive creatures, capable of reading and registering our emotions, often more effectively than we do ourselves. This is a wonderful lesson in how to be more mindful and empathetic about how we're feeling. It's a certainty you will feel calmer having spent even just five minutes in the company of a horse. They see everything, but never judge. 

2) Being out in the countryside with fresh air circulating through your lungs, the breeze in your hair and natural beauty all around you is always sure to lift your spirits. Breathing all this in on board a horse is even more uplifting, as riding requires you to be in the moment, totally connected to what you're asking of your horse so they can comfortably understand you. This is a precious partnership that teaches you to trust yourself. 

3) Horse-riding boosts your independence and bravery - which is such a positive confidence giver! You'll discover as your horse looks to you for where to go, what to do, and whether it's safe, that you possess leadership skills within that you never knew you had!


With Love 
X  
















Tuesday, 11 October 2016

A Mental Health Message



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World Mental Health Day I'm sure has a small meaning to some, and a bigger, deeper meaning to others. Mental health struggles surround us all, sadly, just as Cancer does. 

Both of these illnesses I have been acquainted with - which means my family and friends have too. So you see, we're all connected somehow. These painful battles have touched all of our lives. How comforting it is to see people group together and say a simple 'me too'.  

There is such power and strength in that.

 Mental Health does need to be addressed and spoken about with compassion and non-judgment, because like any illness, it is terrifying. Whether you are going through it yourself, or watching a loved one experience it, there is no escaping how upsetting and out of control it leaves you feeling. To know that other people understand, can instantly reduce that fear, even if it's short lived. It can centre a fragile mind and lessen the fear that you're going through it alone -  which in turn offers Hope

We all need a little bit of hope, I think you'd agree. 

I have touched on Mental Health on both of my blogs. There are a few posts dotted about. It is after all, the very reason I began writing and creating on some internet pages of my very own at the start of the year! 

For a long time I felt very ashamed, guilty and to be perfectly honest like a fraud . . . when my trip to the doctor became very serious, as I sat with my wonderful mum beside me, my grasp on reality and imagined disaster extremely hazy, desperately trying to relay my feelings and speak up about the state my frazzled mind was in. - I still felt so overwhelmingly like I was letting everyone around me down. 

It turned out my lovely doctor didn't need me to speak at all. It had reached the point where she could see my struggle all too clearly. I couldn't hide and try to manage it any longer. She compassionately, with immediate effect handed me a long term sick note, and some much needed medication to calm everything down. I was experiencing a breakdown and clinical Anxiety/Depression overload. I had left my job earlier that evening to make it to the doctors for some much needed support - this was encouraged and warmly nurtured by my mum, who had taken the reins from my hands when I was unable to hold them solidly myself.  Often those special people close to us see what's happening better than we do ourselves. It's wise to trust them. 

My job entailed a lot of responsibility, I often had sole charge. That evening, ( as I closed everything down for the night as usual to hurry to the doctor ) no matter how hard I tried, I stood for over half an hour, frozen, unable to move from staring at a locked door for fear I had not locked it at all! I was paralysed in that moment. And I could not move away - until it felt right to do so.

It sounds so absurd to read. But the mind when troubled and frightened does peculiar things in a bid to protect us - our minds do not want to make us poorly - but sometimes, wires gets crossed and our thought process becomes distorted - our emotions quieten down, or grow louder, or disappear all together. Our sense of reality alters itself, who we are loses focus, distressing imagery fills our minds, decision making becomes impossible - your brain shuts down normal functioning. 

Healing with the help of animals ~ https://millymayamelia.wordpress.com/mindfulness-with-horses/

To anyone who does not understand mental health, or chooses not to believe someone's struggle, I hope some compassion fuels you to empathise with what it is like to have your brain not working properly. Relaying mixed messages, jumbled up emotions, an overwhelming sense of dread and doom.Or nothing at all. Numbness. Disconnection. 

Depression does not mean you are ungrateful for the life or loved ones you have. It means your brain is unable to connect you to any of it. Anxiety isn't something you can cure by 'just getting on with it' it is an overriding emotion that prevents you from clarity and confidence to handle a situation, person, and even yourself. 

I hope anyone who may click on my blog and read this today, can trust that there is HOPE to be found. In life, in people and in yourself. You're going to make it. Please do not belittle who you are. I had to keep reminding myself I was not well - and soon, slowly but surely, little pieces of myself began returning. They are still returning. But at least I can write it down and remember how far I've come from the start of the year.

To anyone who struggles to understand, please do just show empathy - Mental Health problems happen just like any other physical illness happens. It is not imagined, exaggerated, made up, or non - existent. It is real. But kindness and compassion go a long way to helping someone on their way to recovery.

With lots of love and very best wishes to all of you . . . 

#worldmentalhealthday

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Sunday, 9 October 2016

Sunday magic

I am not sure my words, no matter how descriptive I tried to make them, could ever be complimentary enough to the meadow on a sun kissed, Sunday morning. 


All is well here as I sit amongst my horses happily munching their hay breakfasts, the warm sunlight soaking their fluffy coats. 
It's a little piece of perfection for a country dweller like me. So magical in fact, I just had to share it. 


Happy Sunday . . .